Comments on: Sexual Purity in Ministry

By: The Scott

The Scott — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 22:40:11 +0000

Challenging youth to wait until they are an adult is one thing. Scaring the heck out of them, and telling them a condom is a provision for sin is irresponsible. Did you know the Lovers in the Song of Solomon have sex in Chapter 2, but don’t get married until Chapter 3? The kind of ignorance Church leaders have about this sort of in-your-face premarital sex in the Bible has gone on too long. If you want to know more, go to my website. It’s cheaper than a Purity Ring and a lot more fun than abstinence.

-The Scott

By: KEN

KEN — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 19:10:27 +0000

Love the blog. Ran across it from iamhealed.net . Enjoyed reading your post on sexual purity. I deal with a lot of temptation to lust but God has been giving me a lot more freedom and focus. More Jesus is LIFE.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 19:19:50 +0000

My pastor has an “armor bearer” intercessor that travels with her everywhere she goes. She is never alone. Very good policy.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 19:18:21 +0000

OH yeah, thats good!

By: Brian

Brian — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 13:46:04 +0000

Nathan,

That sounds like what my pastor does. And he made sure the church knows that he never travels alone.

By: Carl Thomas

Carl Thomas — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 20:00:41 +0000

Maybe they were. Who knows what they were after.

By: alycia

alycia — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 15:05:40 +0000

Yep it does…for one, those women wern’t all that discerning!

LOL (:

By: Nathan

Nathan — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 09:04:27 +0000

One of my mentors actually established a similar ten commandments with his wife. (Maybe he stole them from Pastor Warren)Even stood in front of the church to share them for accountability and to put the congregation on notice. One that he had was to never travel alone. At first this may seem odd but he was a pastor who had many out of town speaking engagements.

Considering that you would be most vulnerable to an attack of this nature while alone… his first defense was to bring his wiife. His second option was to bring an associate pastor with him. (Male of course) Granted this was in a larger church setting with multiple staff. But if the engagement was not related to the church specifically he would personally cover the costs and salary of that individual.

Extreme… maybe. Sign of weakness in that area… possibly. Assuring his wife that he is dedicated to protecting the sanctitity of their marriage at all costs… certainly.

By: Carl Thomas

Carl Thomas — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 03:41:22 +0000

@Kelly – missed your post. Good points.

Reminds me of Rick Warrens 10 commandments for ministers http://blog.pastors.com/2007/04/30/saddleback-staff-ten-commandments/

1. Thou shalt not go to lunch alone with the opposite sex. *
2. Thou shalt not have the opposite sex pick you up or drive you places when it is just the two of you.*
3. Thou shalt not kiss any attender of the opposite sex or show affection that could be questioned.*
4. Thou shalt not visit the opposite sex alone at home. *
5. Thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex alone at the office, and thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex more than once without that person’s mate. Refer them.
6. Thou shalt not discuss detailed sexual problems with the opposite sex in counseling. Refer them.
7. Thou shalt not discuss your marriage problems with an attender of the opposite sex.
8. Thou shalt be careful in answering emails, instant messages, chatrooms, cards or letters from the opposite sex.
9. Thou shalt make your co-worker your protective ally.
10. Thou shalt pray for the integrity of other staff members.

* The first four do not apply to unmarried staff.

By: Carl Thomas

Carl Thomas — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 03:35:53 +0000

Good points Nathan. I do 95% of my counseling at the altar after service. I cannot think of a time that I counseled a woman away from a service except for the odd phone call. And I never counsel on personal issues on those calls. They are almost always ministry related.